5 Steps to calm down quickly when triggered. Try this short process by downloading the one-pager.
Download and listen to the free NESTR meditation where Jayson guides you through a triggering moment (one for each of the Four Disconnectors). When you don’t know how to “be with” your triggers, Getting to Zero is harder.
Hurt Kid Meditation
If no one helped you feel your emotions as a kid, it’s time to learn how. Sometimes, when you’re hurt by another person’s behavior, it can trigger what feels like a younger part of you. Download and listen to the Hurt Kid meditation to explore this part of yourself.
Commit to becoming a better listener, especially under stress. Watch this great example of LUFU in practice and download the transcript.
If you really apply yourself, this skill alone will change your relationships for life!
Commit to being a better speaker. Watch this SHORE demonstration and download the transcript of a sample conversation. The SHORE process increases your chances of being understood.
FRACKing is how you do NOT want to listen. FRACKing won’t help you get to zero in your conflicts with others. In fact, FRACKing is often how most people listen. Notice how it kills the vibe and the connection in these examples. And, notice how it could create even more conflict.
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